"No one owes you a living"

was an advice my first boss gave me before he was retrenched. That was 6 years ago. How we feel and behave depends solely on us - not on God, on your family, on your lover or even your best friend. It's all up to me, myself and I.

It's a simple advice and yet it takes a lifetime to master it - simply because no one will ever stop complaining, even the kindest soul on earth complains once in a while. I've to constantly remind myself of this fact, so as not to fall into the temptation of indulging in self-pity.

If you find it hard to be happy at times, do what I do - take time to think of what makes you unhappy, what frustrated you - then find a solution to it. Bear in mind though, that the best solution is, of course, to change yourself rather than changing others - because it's you who's unhappy, not the others. You created your own state-of-mind, so only you can undo your own doing.

To end today's blog, I'd like to share the lyrics from Bon Jovi's "It's my life" - a song that I've been repeating the past week.


This ain't a song for the broken-hearted
No silent prayer for the faith-departed
I ain't gonna be just a face in the crowd
You're gonna hear my voice
When I shout it out loud

Chorus:
It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said
I did it my way
I just wanna live while I'm alive
It's my life

This is for the ones who stood their ground
For Tommy and Gina who never backed down
Tomorrow's getting harder make no mistake
Luck ain't even lucky
Got to make your own breaks

Repeat Chorus:

Better stand tall when they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break, baby, don't back down